May 16, 2025

Growth happens in its own time. You are not behind Have you ever scrolled through social media or bumped into an old friend and suddenly felt like everyone else has it all figured out — except you? Maybe you started to panic, wondering if you’d fallen off track or missed some secret deadline. Let me remind you right now: you are not behind.   Your journey unfolds exactly as it should, and comparing your timeline to someone else’s only steals your peace and joy.    Life Is a Journey, Not a Race We’re often told that life is a race or a marathon, but that still implies there’s a finish line we’re all trying to reach simultaneously. Truthfully, you are not behind because life isn’t a competition. It’s a deeply personal journey, full of unique seasons, pauses, restarts, and even reroutes that still lead to purpose.   Some people find clarity early, while others need time to discover what lights them up. Both are valid. You are not behind just because someone else is in their harvest season while you’re still planting seeds.   As Bishop David Oyedepo wisely said, “Life is in phases, and men are in sizes.” What’s blooming in someone else’s garden doesn’t cancel out the beauty of what’s growing quietly in yours.   You Are Not Behind — Your Timeline Is Yours Alone We live in a world of comparison and measure our worth by someone else’s highlights. But you are not behind just because your path looks different. There is no universal clock for success, healing, or purpose.   Success doesn’t always manifest in grand, obvious ways. Often, it looks like the quiet work of setting boundaries, persisting through difficulties, learning from failures, and refusing to give up. These small, courageous steps are significant. They represent progress and show that you are evolving, not falling behind.   Give yourself credit for how far you’ve come. Not everything valuable is visible. Some of your greatest growth happens behind the scenes, away from applause — but that doesn’t make it any less real.    Growth Takes Time and Trust Just like seeds need time in the soil before they bloom, so do we. And just because the growth isn’t obvious doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. You might be building deep roots of strength, resilience, and character. You are not behind; you’re just preparing for your season of bloom.   Take the story of Colonel Harland Sanders, for instance. He faced repeated failures throughout his life, from losing multiple jobs to his restaurant shutting down. But at the age of 65, after receiving over 1,000 rejections, he finally succeeded with his fried chicken recipe and founded what we now know as KFC. His breakthrough didn’t come early, but it came when it was time. His journey was never “behind”—it was simply unfolding in its own unique, powerful rhythm.   Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under the heavens.”   Maybe this is your season of rest, reflection, or learning. That doesn’t mean you’re off track. It means you’re on track — just on your track. Trust the season you are in, even if it is slow, quiet, or does not seem like progress to anyone else.   Let Go of the Pressure to Catch Up Who says you have to “catch up”? Who made the rules that say you should have it all figured out by a certain age? The truth is, there’s no scoreboard. There’s no gold medal for rushing. There’s just life — and the way you choose to live it.   You are not behind if you’re still finding your rhythm or healing. You’re not behind if you’re learning or have to start over.   Every season matters. Every step you take counts. Embrace the journey you are on, rather than the illusion of where you believe you should be.   Affirm This: I Am Not Behind — I Am Embracing My Journey Whenever the doubt creeps in and comparison tries to steal your joy, speak this over yourself: “I am not behind but embracing my journey.”   I am growing at my own pace. I am trusting the process and honouring the season I’m in.” Because you are not behind. You are exactly where you need to be, learning what you need to learn and becoming who you’re meant to become. So give yourself grace.   Celebrate your small wins. Be proud of your silent progress. And most of all, trust that your time is coming.   Pause and reflect: What’s one way you’ve grown silently this year that you haven’t given yourself credit for? Drop it in the comments — your growth deserves to be seen.  If this resonated with you, share it. You never know who needs the reminder that they are not behind.