June 3, 2025

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Quiet the Noise, Reclaim Your Peace

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We live in a noisy world that never stops talking. If it’s not your phone buzzing, it’s the emails demanding attention, group chats blowing up, and the never-ending notifications. There’s always something or someone trying to get our attention. One Friday evening, after the day’s task, I sat down not to rest but to breathe. It was in that moment that I realised I had lost myself. I wasn’t sure of who I was anymore. Have I been merely existing? I felt drained both physically and emotionally. I had a lot of uncompleted to-do lists, responsibilities I had taken on without giving a thought to, and the pressure to show up for everyone. I realised that I was in everyone’s space, playing the helper and the hero at the same time. But deep inside, I needed to help myself. Then it hit me: “Who are you?” This one question peeled the layer I’d been afraid to confront. I was forced to pause and reflect on my essence. What do I really want out of life?What does peace mean to me? The Turning Point I remember sitting on my bed, thinking of how to make dinner, laundry yet to be folded, and a long to-do list. In that instance, it dawned on me that I had given myself away, and I struggled to recognise who I was becoming. That was my turning point. It became obvious that I didn’t just need peace but needed to live it. This I know will require me to quiet the noise. So I took some radical steps. I turned off my phone and stepped back. I stopped scrolling, stopped responding, and stopped trying to do it all. In the stillness, I began to hear myself again.Not the version of me that demands but the real me.The version of me that craved quiet mornings and the space to just be. Creating Space for Peace One of the things I did that helped me was going for walks without my phone, just me and my thoughts. I created some hours of silence in my day without the TV on or tasks to do. Just silence, which I craved for. I started noticing a reconnection with myself again. I could hear myself without the noise. I rested without feeling guilty. These actions made me feel lighter, not because the world had suddenly become quiet but because I stopped letting it rule me. A Reminder If you feel you’re losing yourself in the noise of life, it’s time to take a break. Ask yourself: What do I need right now? Your peace matters more than the noise. And sometimes, peace begins with simply switching off and listening in. So today, choose you. Quiet the noise. Reclaim your peace. One small step at a time. Let’s Reflect Have you been feeling stretched thin lately? Maybe this is your sign to step back and ask, “What do I need right now?” You might be surprised at the answer. Quiet the noise. Come home to yourself. And choose peace over and over again.

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How to Build Lasting Habits: Start Small and Stay Consistent

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The idea of change can be beautiful and sometimes scary. I remember when I decided to start journaling again after a long break. I was excited that I went out and bought three new journals the next day. To start writing again felt amazing. But after a few days, I started making excuses. I would tell myself things like, “I’ll do this later,” or “Oh, today’s too busy.” Before I knew it, the habit started fading once again. Looking back, I realise the problem wasn’t my motivation; instead, it was my approach. Starting with three journals? Nah, that wasn’t a great idea at all for someone just getting back into a habit. That experience changed my perspective and taught me a valuable lesson: The secret to making habits that last is to start small. Why Starting Small Works We sometimes think real change requires us to start big. Can I tell you? It’s not! Doing that is like someone showing up at the Olympics without training. We humans aren’t wired for drastic change but for routines and gradual shifts. Whatever change you desire, you will have to start small. You want to read more? Start with a page a day Looking to get fit? Start with five minutes of stretching. These actions seem easy, right? Yes, that is the idea! When actions are small and effortless, you are more likely to do them. When actions are repeated daily, they start building momentum, which leads to transformation. The Real Secret: Just Show Up One of my mantras when I am building new habits is this: just show up. Routines can feel boring. Motivation will even fade. But knowing what you want to achieve—and showing up even when you don’t feel like it—is where the magic happens. When I stopped using all three journals at once, and focused on one at a time. Everything shifted for me. I started enjoying the process again. A Gentle Reflection If you’re struggling to start—or stay consistent—you’re not lazy. You might just be trying to do too much too soon. Life is in seasons, please extend grace to yourself. Every small effort you put into your process counts. With consistency, you will build momentum. Do You Want to start a New Habit today? Try one of these small habits: Write one sentence in your journal Read a page from your favourite book Say one kind thing to yourself Drink a glass of water when you wake up Take a walk for five minutes You can choose one. Or create your own. The goal isn’t for perfection but consistency. I’m still learning on this journey too. To show up and trust my process daily. I know that lasting change doesn’t require me to be perfect, but to keep moving. So if you are seeking change, start small, stay consistent and remember to be kind to yourself along the way. What tiny habit do you want to start this week? Share it in the comments—I’d love to cheer you on.

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The Power of Vulnerability: How It Fuels Growth and Connection

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Many of us fear being vulnerable because we don’t want to be seen as weak. What if I told you that vulnerability isn’t a weakness but a strength? We grew up with a mindset of perfectionism, fear, and pretense. When someone asks how you are doing, the typical response is “I’m fine.” But how often do we mean it? Let me ask you today: Are you truly okay? What Is Vulnerability and Why Is It Important? Vulnerability is the act of opening up to share your fears, emotions, insecurities, and dreams without knowing the outcome. It’s about being honest and real. I sat down one day, listening to a friend talk to me about her struggles. I was so surprised at her level of trust and vulnerability. That same day, I went home asking myself, Can I be this vulnerable in sharing how I feel with someone? It struck a chord in me that vulnerability isn’t a weakness but a strength. I called her up the next day to ask how she was doing. She told me how light and free she was feeling. I’m not suggesting you share with just anyone. That’s not the point. Vulnerability is about choosing to open up with the people in your circle that you trust. Those people who will hold your story with care. Vulnerability is the pathway to personal growth. Stepping out of one’s comfort zone is one of the scariest things to do. Why? We are afraid of judgment from others or failure. This reminded me of a powerful quote by Theodore Roosevelt: “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better…but the man who is actually in the arena…” Growth happens when we learn to step out of our comfort zones. Overcoming the Fear of Vulnerability We all have our struggles and fears. Stepping out is not as easy as it sounds, but it’s doable. I struggled with asking for help for a long time until I learnt that it’s a strength, not a weakness. Here are small steps you can start with: Be honest when someone asks how you are. Admit when you don’t know something. Say “I need help” or “I’m not okay”—even when it feels uncomfortable. These small acts help build a more authentic version of you. Vulnerability in Everyday Living Have you ever met someone who truly understands you? The one you know has got your back. This connection is often achieved through mutual openness. In friendships, sharing our struggles helps us connect more deeply than small talk ever can. In marriage, emotional intimacy grows when both partners feel safe being themselves. At work, leaders who admit they don’t have all the answers build trust and encourage their teams to be creative. How to Embrace Vulnerability Journaling – identifying and naming your fears is powerful. Have real conversations—It’s time to have deeper conversations beyond “I’m fine.” Practice self-compassion—remind yourself you don’t need perfection. A Gentle Reminder: Vulnerability Isn’t a Weakness Vulnerability isn’t a weakness or about seeking pity. It’s about choosing courage. It breeds a life of genuine and sincere relationships. So today, breathe and take that small step. Share an honest thought. Admit your fear. Ask for support. You might find out that the very thing you feared is your greatest strength. Challenge yourself this week: Share one honest struggle with someone you trust.”

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