Raising children in today’s world is becoming more challenging than it was years ago. With the constant buzzing of phones, emails, to-do lists, and social media feeds, it’s easy to be physically present but emotionally absent.

However, our children need more than just our presence; they require our attention to grow into balanced, emotionally healthy adults.

Why Being a Present Parent is important

Research has shown that children thrive emotionally, socially, and intellectually when their parents are available to them. Presence builds trust, improves healthy communication, and fosters secure attachment. 

When children feel seen, heard, and valued, their confidence grows.

“It’s easy to say, ‘I am working hard for them. I provide their needs.” Yes, while all of these are true, being present matters just as much as providing.

Practical Ways to Be a More Present Parent

1. Practice Active Listening.

It’s not enough to say we’re listening to our children while we are scrolling on our phones or multitasking. Children don’t just hear our words; they feel our attention.

My daughter once said to me, “Mum, I’m not talking again because you’re not listening.” The truth is, I was present but wasn’t paying attention to what she was saying. I was caught in the moment, and even though I apologised,  I’ve never forgotten that scenario.

Active listening means: 

• Making eye contact
• Putting away your phone or laptop
• Responding or repeating what they’ve said

These small actions help children feel valued, understood, and respected.

2. Establish Daily Family Rituals

 Simple, consistent routines give children a sense of emotional safety. Things like:

• Morning hugs
  
• After-school chats
  
• Bedtime stories
  

These are the moments your children will remember and cherish for years to come.

3. Manage Your Stress

Many of us are juggling numerous responsibilities, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But stress can prevent us from showing up fully.

In moments of stress or when you’re feeling triggered, take a moment to pause and breathe before responding.

A calm parent creates a calm environment.

When we learn to regulate ourselves, we teach our children to do the same.

4. Set boundaries with Technology.

Distractions are everywhere, especially on our devices. One habit I’ve found helpful is to put my phone away during meals and bedtime.

It sends a simple but powerful message: “You matter more than my screen.”

5. Participate in playtime.

Play is how children process emotions and build bonds. Even just a few minutes of engaged play can make a lasting difference.

Try:

• Colouring together
  
• Building puzzles
  
• Role-play or storytelling
  

Your presence during play shows your child that you enjoy spending time with them.

6. Extend Grace to Yourself. 

You won’t get it perfect every day, and that’s okay. Life happens.

What matters most is your intention. Some days, you’ll miss the mark. But by being aware and making the effort, you’re already doing something powerful.

Parenting is not about perfection. It’s about presence.

A Heartfelt Reminder

In a world that constantly demands our attention, choosing to be a present parent is a powerful act of love. 

It requires awareness, effort, and sacrifice.

Our children won’t remember every toy or how clean the house was. They’ll remember how we made them feel safe, loved, and important. And that feeling far outweighs anything money can buy.

Our presence is the most valuable gift we can give and the one they’ll carry with them for life.

What’s one small way you’re choosing to be more present today? Share in the comments below or with someone who needs this reminder.