Have you ever felt so pained about something that you didn’t know how to explain it? Like being triggered by hearing a child crying or a sudden feeling of anger by someone’s comments? The message is hidden in your emotions.

Where do these emotions come from?

Have you taken time to reflect on your childhood and how you were raised? Did your feelings matter? Were they validated? If you were constantly told not to cry when you were hurting. These reflections will help you understand where you learnt how to manage your emotions and your response to them.

But here’s the truth: there is a message hidden in your emotions, and ignoring them doesn’t make them disappear.

Emotions Are Inner Messengers

Our emotions aren’t some random feelings that just pop up. They don’t show up to ruin our day—or to bring us joy. They’re signals that your attention is needed.

Have you ever been so upset about someone’s actions that you were moved with rage? That feeling? I have been there.

Every emotion carries a message.

• Fear keeps us from danger.
• Guilt pushes us to apologise.
• Sadness tells us that something or someone is of value to us.
• Paying attention to our emotions serves as a guide towards our healing.

Why Do We Ignore Our Emotions?

As adults, we are shaped by those who raised us and the environment in which we were raised. Our background plays a major role in how we deal with emotions.

If you grew up in a home where emotions were dismissed, you learn to conceal yours. Sometimes, we feel silence is the best way to survive our emotions. But what worked as a child can become harmful as an adult.

Stop Silencing Your Emotions

Pretending to be okay when you’re not is suppressing your emotions.  

It’s time to connect to our inner selves and listen to our emotions. Our society is filled with people carrying years of unprocessed emotions, many of whom end up hurting others. 

Growing up, we didn’t know any better. We thought hitting or yelling was okay, but now we know, it’s not.

This journey of understanding my emotions has been an amazing experience for me. I am growing in self-awareness and in how I show up.

Gentle Reminders

• It’s not okay to hurt others because you are hurting.
• Running from your emotions won’t make them go away, but learning to walk through them.
• True courage lies in embracing, not hiding, your feelings.

The message hidden in your emotion is an invitation to grow, heal, and become.

• Allow yourself to feel.
• Pause and ask: What is this emotion telling me?
• We don’t need to have it all figured out. Healing begins with awareness.

  Growth and healing are waiting on the other side.